Weight loss, a new love, new job promotion, most experience start with butterflies, also known as anxiety. This phase is built on personal inventory of perceptions of what optimum should and shouldn't be.
I've recently started a new relationship with a great guy. It started slow with months of chat and harmless flirting. It was a friendship in the beginning, there was no rush to meet. As time went on, we started to play with the thought of meeting, in other terms hook up. That never happened.
Weeks and months pass and one day by chance of being in a large city circumstance, we decide to connect. We hit it off, have a fantastic date and then, cease and desist, all communication stopped. Moving forward we reconnect and have been inseparable since.
Then early one morning, self doubt knocked on my door. Does he really like me? Will he leave me? Will he truly love me as I am? Or my 'favorite', am I sexy enough? These are all legitimate questions my mind has made up to self sabotage.
Because of baggage, too many are conditioned to think they deserve less. I was once guilty until I became sure of my utopia. We're suppose ask for what we want and go get it. Thoroughbred racehorses wear blinders so they can focus on the path forward, not the side static. I've learned to approach my bliss in same way, forget the static and focus on goal towards happy.
In life, when it comes to getting what we want, we can either a) sedate ourselves with drugs to dumb the anxiety of self doubt while getting nothing we want or b) actively ignore self doubt fueled by past learning curves and continue towards winning bliss.